Are You Real? Post #34

How real, how authentic would you say you are? Do you find that you act differently around different people? You may have answered yes to that question.  I’m embarrassed to say that my answer was yes.

A well-respected Christian leader said that she wanted to strive to be the same person 24 hours a day, seven days a week, no matter where she is or who she is around. Wow. That statement sets the bar pretty high. That is the standard I pray to reach one day… one day. The journey is long.

Isn’t it so refreshing to be around authentic people?  I feel blessed to surround myself intentionally with authentic friends and mentors. The kind of people who are real, unpretentious, humble, can laugh at themselves, have servant hearts. People who talk the same about you to your face as behind your back. When these people/friends give you feedback, it’s mostly positive and uplifting, and even when it’s needed constructive criticism, it is uttered to your face and not only behind your back.

Have you ever overheard someone speaking positively about you? What a sweet treat. Now, have you overheard someone speaking negatively about you?  How did it make you feel?

Today is a new day. Let’s get real. What does “getting real” mean, you might ask? I heard a mentor say that success is treating our friends like family and our family like friends.  To me, that is what being real, being authentic means.

Reflect:

–Who are some people in your life who are real/authentic? Please comment.

–Who are you when no one is around?

–Who is the REAL, authentic you?

Renew:

–“Therefore, encourage each other and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” –1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV84

“Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.” –Titus 2:6-9 NIV84

–“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear gifts? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.” –James 3:9-12 NIV84

 Recharge:

–What will you do be more real? Please comment on some ways to be more real.

–Call an authentic friend/mentor with whom to spend some intentional time this week.

Investing in What You Can’t See, Post #23

So I just had to purchase a new HVAC (Heating, Ventilation and Air Conditioning) System for my home. Not what I wanted to spend a huge amount of money on—something I really can’t see yet I can feel it…

It was going to be so fun to spend my tax refund money on trips, spa days, paying principal on my mortgage…you get the drift. Sorry to say that’s not the way it worked out.

As a single woman, I don’t ever go up in my attic. Who wants to lug a huge ladder into the hallway, punch the little wooden door and climb up the ladder to the top step just to see darkness up there? Not me, buddy.

So the HVAC guy told me that not only did I need a new outdoor unit and air-handler in the attic, but also I needed all new ductwork. What is wrong with the ductwork I have? He proceeded to show and tell me that it’s all deteriorated, that the reason my electric bills had been so high is that my unit and ductwork are about 20 years old. The analogy he used to describe heating my house was akin to having the oven on with the oven door wide open, wasting valuable energy and resources. Hmmm…

Not wanting to be taken advantage of, I called four companies to receive bids. My mouth fell open when the lowest bid for HVAC and ductwork was $2000 more than I had anticipated. Gulp…

The new system was installed last week. The only way I can easily tell I have a new HVAC system are my cute digital thermostat in my hallway and the new shiny metal gray unit outside my house. Although I don’t go up there, I know that shiny new ductwork is in my attic. It has been transformed and renewed!

You might be asking, “So what?”

As I lay in my bed hearing the click of the heat come on, it occurred to me:  How much do I invest in my faith and my relationship with God, something/Someone I can’t necessarily see, but I can feel?

Through the years, if I had gone up in my attic and inspected the dark, scary places of my house, I could have maintained my ductwork better.

My heart is the same way.  If I don’t examine the dark, scary places in my heart, shed light on my weaknesses (which may include bitterness, resentment and buried memories), intentionally repair them, I will pay the consequences down the road.  The results: I can’t always see the results, but the people around me and I can feel the wonderful difference.   May we examine the HVAC system of our souls and make the investment in what we can’t necessarily see. It will change the atmosphere around us, around our world. Feel the change of heart?

Reflect:

–How can I intentionally inspect,  deep-down, to get what I’m expecting?

–How does your “attic” of the soul look? How is the atmosphere you operate in—too chilly, just right? Invest today in your faith. Please comment.

Renew:

–“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.” –Ezekiel 36:26 (NIV 1984)

–“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” –Psalm 51:10 (NIV 1984)

–“May He strengthen your hearts so that you will be blameless and holy in the presence of our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his holy ones.” –1 Thessalonians 3:13 (NIV 1984)

— “For the Word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” –Hebrews 4:12 (NIV 1984)

Recharge:

What is your plan to “clean up” your soul’s attic and invest in what you can’t see? A few suggestions–1) read a little in your Bible daily (if you never have read it, open it up and start with Proverbs or John); 2) find a Christ-centered church home to attend–Easter is less than two weeks away!; 3) volunteer and serve others; 4) reconcile with a loved one who wounded you or vice versa; 5) Forgive. The possibilities are endless.  Please comment.