I Want To Be Loved–Part 2 (Single Girl Valentine’s Confessions)

It’s tough being single on Valentine’s Day. As soon as Christmas is over, the stores are full of red hearts, love balloons, and Valentine’s Day merchandise. Hallmark Channel even plays non-stop Love movies! Yes, I get sucked into watching each one. Yes, I am a hopeful romantic.

Yes, I love reading the sweet greeting cards in the store aisles offered to the man of our life. It’s embarrassing to tell you, but years ago, I bought several beautifully-written Valentine’s Cards, perfect for my future husband. Perhaps it was like a a self-fulfilling prophecy to buy those cards expressing such deep, unconditional love for the man I know God has for me.

This simple gesture alone makes Valentine’s Day even HARDER for a single. A hopeful, romantic single.

Last Valentine’s Day was different. It was a cold night. I built a cozy fire. I was excited. I was ready. It was time to write my Love Letter.  Opening my journal, the following is the Love Letter penned on those pages:

Dearest Lover of My Soul,

Happy Valentine’s Day! Thank you for being my First Love, today and always.

Thank you, Lord,  for pointing out and healing the idolatry sin I have suffered for my future husband for years without even realizing it. My heart is changed. Please forgive me. 

Holy Spirit, I want to be content in my singleness. Help me. Tonight I look forward to building a fire,  taking my old store-bought Valentine’s cards bought for my future husband, and burning them as an offering to You. I am Yours. You are mine.  I am at peace.

My Rock and My Redeemer, Gentle Healer, it is an honor to convey a portion of my immense love for You. No journal, no library can record all my love, dear Jesus.  Thank you for loving me. Every breath is for You, precious Lord.

How may I serve You more? On this Valentine’s Day, I recommit my life to You. It is You and You alone who I need. (Not the only man I want, I admit).  Right now, make me more of a vessel for You and Your Gospel. I want to be your humble ambassador, Your spokesman who only utters worthy, not worthless words. (Jeremiah 15:19). May it be so. 

 “Speak, for Your servant is listening.”  (1 Samuel 3:10)

I Love You With My Whole Heart,

Danya, Your Daughter of  the King

Since the Bible is God’s Love Letter, I had finally written my Love Letter to Jesus. That night transformed Valentine’s Day for me. Contentment came.

I’m looking so forward to Valentine’s Day in less than two weeks. Bring it.

Stay tuned next week for an encouraging message from Guest Blogger Teresa Tarrant on how to heal a broken marriage.


–Are you content in your circumstances? Please comment.

–How can you express your love for God more?


“Because Your love is better than life, my lips will glorify You. I will praise You as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands.” –Psalm 63: 3-4 NIV

“‘My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.'” –John 15:12-13 NIV

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation. ” –Philippians 4:12 NIV

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.” –1 Timothy 4:12 NIV.


–Write your Love Letter to Jesus.

–The Bible is God’s Love Letter to us. Please read it daily.

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  1. Hello Danya. Love your openness.

    My answer to your question, how can you express your love for God more, is to watch I don’t break his heart. I’d never really considered that I could make God heart-broken.

    I like how Ephesians 4:30 in The Message reminds us of true love, real intimacy and perfect gift-giving: Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted.

    So, how do I show my love to God this Valentine’s Day and throughout the year? I am to: Say only what helps, each word a gift…Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32

    Not always easy but worth it to avoid the heartbreak.

    • Beautiful, Rachel! I had not read that translation of Ephesians 4:30-32. So true. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and for your anointed comment. You are a Godly girl after God’s own heart. 🙂

  2. I LOVED this post, Danya. I have often referred to Valentine’s Day as Single Awareness Day.

    Your perspective and heart, to see Jesus as the utmost lover, is not just for single women, but for us all. As He is pursuing us, He wants us to pursue Him back! Just as we wouldn’t want a relationship that is only “asking” in nature, I don’t believe Jesus does either.

    Keep sharing, my friend!

    • Lynn,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read this blog post. You are such a gifted writer and speaker. Your encouragement means the world. May we continue to write Love Letters to Jesus, sister. 🙂

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